This is my very first post whilst living in China. I'm feeling very ... funny... at the moment. Part of me is so beyond frustration that I can barely function. And part of me is glad that I'm *finally* having an adventure.
China, initially, was a little bit of a disappointment for me because I was seeking adventure and challenges. In the first 7 weeks in China, I experienced none. China has a much *MUCH* higher standard of living than Romania. I wasn't really prepared for that fact. I mean, I knew that China was the land of knock-offs and cheap DVDs, but I really never expected to find George Foreman's Lean and Mean Grilling Machines or Westinghouse air purifiers. Nor did I expect to find imported food sections with Green Giant creamed corn. My school (Nanjing International School) is absolutely fantastic. I love, *love* my apartment. What can I say?
Then I had my first adventure this week.
I was texting the school's travel agent about getting me return tickets to Suzhou, which is a city 173 km away that is famous for cheap pearls. Well, I got my ticket, and my friend Susanne's ticket, the night before at 10 pm, only to find that no return was given. Ack! So we went anyhow - I was figuring that we could simply buy our returns immediately upon descending. Well, we alighted Suzhou station to find that it smelt so overwhelmingly like urine that it was hard to surpress continuous gags. It was hot. We were sticky. And standing in line. Luckily, we met up with a Siberian translator who spoke excellent Mandarin. She tried to help us buy tickets. Unfortunately, all the tickets were sold out except for the N train at midnight (N, I believe, standing for "nasty.") This was the peasant train that stops at every station and takes 4 hours to arrive. We bought the tickets as a safe guard and starting talking about finding a bus. At that moment, we found a taxi driver who promised to take us back to Nanjing for 400 RMB ($52 CDN). We figured this wasn't bad, since we'd be splitting the cost. So we hurried to our meeting place, where we met up with our new friends from
AECL. We went off to the pearl market and went crazy with buying. Who could blame us? 9.5mm pearls were only $15 CDN each! Later we went out for dinner, where we also learned how to knot the pearls ourselves. That was awesome, but the frustrating adventure was yet to come. The taxi driver, it turned out, was a slime ball. He raised the price to 800 RMB if we traveled only together. He said if we accepted riding with a Chinese family, the price would go down to 450 RMB (which was still 50 more than we bargained!) Well, we got in the taxi. Out of the taxi. The Chinese family got in the taxi. They got out of the taxi. We yelled They yelled. Susanne scalped our tickets. We had my friend Aggie translating (she was really yelling) over the phone. Manic. Finally we jumped out and climbed in a black cab. Aggie was telling me not to, over the phone, because she said the black cab would stop in the middle of no where and demand more money before finishing. She was also frustrated that we hadn't given her the license plate number so that she could help us if we got in trouble. But Susanne was frustrated more and off we went. True enough, the black cab stopped, after over an hour. He claimed that he was having car troubles. A metred green taxi came along and picked us all up. At this point, I was now shoved in the backseat with three other people, one of whom really smelled. Luckily, Judi Phillips had taught me the trick of putting perfume on your face and hands so that you can only smell the perfume, not the other person. Luckily, Susanne had perfume on her. Well, we continued onwards for over an hour and a half before finally arriving at Nanjing train station. We checked the metre and found that it was at 335 RMB, not including the 85 RMB in tolls. That's when we realised that we actually made a good deal. We were happy.
So that was adventure no.1.
Here is adventure no.2.
There is a famous Chinese saying that goes, "What does it matter if the cat is black or white, if he catches the mouse?" This means that the product, or end result, is more important than the process. This is in direct contrast to Western standards, in which the process can sometimes outweigh the results.
So speaking of cats... i was trying to find a kitten.
This is *much* more difficult than living in Canada, where you can drive down the road looking for kitten signs. Or where you can stop at any farm and ask if they have any stray kittens in the barn.
China is notorious for having very bad animal protection, and this is extremely evident here. There is a knock-off market called Fuzi Miao with an area called Pet Alley. It is a horrible, *horrible* place. It has tiny animals in cages so small that they can't turn around. It has trapped chipmunks and other animals that aren't even domesticated... in cages only small enough to fit them. It has cages of kittens, all lying in heaps. The animals are often dyed strange colours, with purple ears and pink feet. They are diseased. They are matted. They are horrible. And they die after only a month. So I didn't want a cat from Pet Alley.
I told my driver Mr.L and a Chinese friend of mine that I wanted to get a kitten.
In Mr.L's mind, there was only a product - "Amy wants a kitten."
In my mind, there was a process:
#1. Vaccinate existing cat for Feline Parvovirus because it is epidemic in China, and particularly in Pet Alley.
#2. Contact local vets to see if any home cats have recently had litters.
#3. Visit home and observe to see whether cats are well treated.
#4. Choose the most friendly kitten who seems strong and healthy.
#5. Take kitten to the vet to get a thorough check-up and to ensure there is no feline parvovirus.
#6. Take kitten home.
I explained this all to my friend, who in turn explained it to Mr.L. We spent the entire day searching for the perfect kitten, with no luck.
Each time, Mr.L kept saying, "But what colour does she want? I can bring her a kitten. What about Fuzi Miao?" And I was very VERY firmly saying, "No. No! No! No Fuzi Miao."
Well, following my steps, I took my cat, Hudson, to the vet to get the Parvovirus vaccine. We tried to go to the official government vet, but he said the vaccine wasn't available because the government was currently in negotiations with the manufacturer. So we went to a private clinic instead. I took my EU Pet Passport in order to ensure that I could easily get Hudson back into Europe, should I ever want/need to. The vet was initially scared of Hudson. He explained to my friend and I that Chinese cats are very badly behaved in China, that they scratch and bite and that vets normally put a muzzle on them. He couldn't understand why Hudson was so calm and well mannered. I asked my friend why Chinese cats were so badly behaved. Were they abused? She said no, they are normally outdoor cats who learn bad manners. Well, later in the day we went to the house of my friend's maid. She has two kittens left from a previous litter. I was so excited. The description was of a loving home with two darling kittens. However, all the kittens in the home (four) were skittish, timid, and extremely wary of people. One sat on a very high shelf, curled up tight into himself, with his ears flat back, staring at us. There was *no way* I was taking one of these cats. So you see? Even when things sound perfect, you still have to check them out!
So we agreed that we would look again another day.
Here comes the adventure.
10:10 p.m. that night, I got a phone call from my friend saying that Mr.L had found me a kitten. He was outside my townsite with it. He couldn't return it because he would lose face (this honour thing) with his friends, so if I didn't want it, he was going to abandon it - and it would die. I was *sooooo* furious! now the life of this kitten laid in my hands. And what if it was horrible? What if it was skittish? What if it was old? What if it was sick? What if it had parvo already? What if it had a nasty personality? All choice was pulled from my hands. Even though we had explained to Mr.L on *many occasions* that he was *not* to bring me a cat, here he had shown up at my doorstep, telling me if I didn't take it, he would kill it. I was *furious*!
My friend and Mr.L came to my door and showed me the kitten. It was *very* small...maybe only 4 weeks old. A little black and white tuxedo who actually had a bowtie print on his fur. He was dirty and matted. I told my friend that, while he was a very nice kitten of a great age, there was no way he was coming into my house. I mean, I spent so much money and effort and love into getting my cat from Romania, to Canada, to China. To have him die of feline parvovirus was definitely not in my plans. Parvo is not passed by cats, but rather it is passed by the environment. The virus stays in an environment for one year. Thus, if I brought the kitten into my home and he did have parvo, then my cat would get it and die, and then my house would be contaminated for a complete year. Now, Hudson (my cat) had his vaccination for parvo only this afternoon, so I figured he would not have built up the antibodies yet for it. Also, he's supposed to have two shots and he's only had one. So regardless, this cat was not coming into my house. And besides... he could have loads of other diseases. And finally... he looks identical to my cat, Toby, who died years ago, and whose death I still mourn (just thinking about Toby is liable to get me teary). So this cat was absolutely *not* coming into my house. Luckily, another friend (who is deeply allergic to cats) offered to cat sit over night on the condition that the cat never leaves its cage. Wow. Thank goodness. So the cat went over to her house. After watching it for a while, i decided that I did really like it. It's vocal and it comes to the cage door when you call it. It's a little shaky and there is discharge coming out of its eyes. Now... I'm really trying to remind myself that Hudson came out of the garbage in Romania and Tori came out of a woodpile in Canada. And Tori had really messed up eyes. The fact is - stray cats do make awesome pets. So I think I will keep him...her... the problem is that I'm worried that he has parvo and I'm worried about his eyes... and he makes me sad because whenever I see him, I think about Toby. I'm also really furious with Mr.L.
Well, I walked home from my friend's, only to realise that I had locked myself out of my flat. This meant I had to find a taxi, run off to school, explain to the security guards what happened, wake up the facility officer to help me find the key, and come running home to open up the flat. Wow. What a night.
So I'm thinking of names for this cat. I was going to name it after either a Canadian explorer or body of water - to match with Hudson. However, after tonight, I think he/she needs a more meaningful name. If it's a girl, I'm going to call her Benjamina, which is Hebrew for "my sorrow." I think it's appropriate, considering what Mr.L put me through to get this cat "Take it or I'll kill it." and considering how much he looks like my precious cat who died.
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I was super furious. However, I talked with a cultural training counsellor from Shanghai. She really changed how I view China and the whole culture shock thing. I really looked at the situation from Mr.L's point of view. He was thinking, "What's all the fuss? She wanted a kitten. I found her one. What does it matter where I got it? She's got it. Why isn't she happy? Why is she mad at me?" And I'm thinking, "Where did this kitten come from? Is it healthy? Is it strong? Does it have parvo? Has it been abused?" We just don't understand each other.
I was so angry with Mr.L that I swore I would never use him as a driver ever again. However, now I have calmed down because I realise that even with a translator, he doesn't understand me and I don't understand him. We aren't just from two different countries, it appears we are also from two different planets.
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So I was hoping for adventure, and I got it. Hopefully everything has a happy ending. If this kitten does turn out to be healthy, then I'll take him and I'll have ended up with a good deal on a taxi ride and a friend for Hudson.